“Still Not Asking for It”

Wow. Today. 2017. Now.

Why we need feminism: “the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities”

Today, I was looking for an interesting read online when I stumbled across a female Odyssey writer’s post “I’m Naked And Still Not Asking For It.” I was expecting to read a body positive, sex positive, taking back the female body, feminist, #YesAllWomen, article. But, instead, I was thoroughly disappointed and disgusted with what I encountered.

I began the article unsure of where it was headed. The author agreed that “[a feminist’s position is that women are] not deserving to be raped despite how they choose to dress, look, or act.”A pretty easy concept to agree with, yes? And to clarify, that ‘concept’ is not only a “feminist position” but a fact of basic human rights. I continued on to read the thoughts of someone who believes this movement “has given women a sense of entitlement regarding sex and some have just taken it too far,” going on to say that the problem with this movement is that women are “provoking” men.

Yes, you read that correctly.

Provoking.

You are never at fault. NEVER. The fact that this author can blame a survivor and not see the issue with lack of consent is mind blowing to me. And to add to the fact that this is an unfortunate example of how sexualized the female nude is. The author then goes on to make these crass remarks:

“…who could watch a woman walk around his apartment butt naked and not assume that she wants to have sex… especially if he didn’t ask her to take anything off or suggest that he wanted to do anything sexual in the first place. Actions speak louder than words. So if a man sees a woman casually stripping naked in his living room, what is he to do? Offer her a soda?”

No, he’s not supposed to ask her if she would like a soda.

He is required to ask for her consent.

I am outraged. I am hopeless to think that someone (regardless of the fact that this entirely pertains to violence against women even when the author herself identifies as a woman) feels whether or not a woman is naked, that a man is entitled to her body.

     This. This article and its author just further enforce the years of rape culture and patriarchy that we have been forced to endure. For those of you that are unsure of what ‘patriarchy‘ is: it is the “equal” social system we have in today’s society where males “hold primary power and dominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property.” Wiki hit the nail on the head with that one. No, I’m sorry but we don’t have gender equality in 2017 where men feel entitled to a naked woman. No, I’m sorry, but the 19th Amendment isn’t enough for me. No, I’m sorry but our genders are not equal. No, I’m sorry, but I’m not sorry. I’m appalled that it’s 2017 and I’m 20 years old and fighting for the rights to my own body!!!!

I am here to stand up for not only myself, but for all women, for all men, and for the sake of humanity. No one is entitled to my body. No one is entitled to have an opinion on my body. No one gets to “have their way with me” or comment on me. I am certainly not asking for it.

I am naked, but I am STILL not asking for it. I am naked, and my consent is not only important, but it is required.

#StillNotAskingForIt

NSW Rape Crisis hotline: 1800 424 017 or Lifeline: 13 11 44

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